Wild & Free girls are parentalized to become people-pleasing women
How society has tamed young girls to make them put theirselves last.
There is a lioness in all of us but that lioness has been tamed until we are so fed up that we don’t care if we are being too much or too loud. As girls, we are taught to not take up space. We can’t do what little boys do. We are supposed to cater to others to be able to become good wives and mothers. We are expected to think about everyone else and not ourselves.
This is why so many women now have an issue with people pleasing in all relationships, friendships, work, etc. I know I am one of them. I thought that I was finally over that hurdle but not completely. I still have this issue with people pleasing in the corporate world.
When it comes to our jobs, we are afraid to speak up because it might make us look like we are aggressive or not team players. Taking the promotion that we don’t really want but we are thrown into the position. Speaking up for the job you want but being given a position you didn’t ask for with no explanation. It can make you feel defeated and play small. Being told you should do specific things to have more visibility in the company, but you don’t want to be visible. You just want to do your work and clock out at the end of the work day. If this is how you feel, I completely understand because I’m there too.
My goal is to be out of the corporate world at 40. That is 3 years from now for me. I will make it happen even if it is earlier than 40. I’m burnt out on the corporate world. Climbing the corporate ladder is not for me. It keeps me from speaking up. It’s the only area of my life now where I have to stay tamed. At 36-37 years old, I’m so fucking done with being tamed. I am ready to be the wild & free woman that I was meant to be.
“If you have ever been called defiant, incorrigible, forward, cunning, insurgent, unruly, rebellious, you’re on the right track. Wild Woman is close by.” - Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés
During covid is when I had a ton of time to reflect on my life. I had a breast cancer scare, multiple panic attacks, actual covid, and bell’s palsy on the left side of my face. I went through it. That time was my awakening. I knew that my life had to change. I quit alcohol and caffeine, started therapy, exercised regularly, everything that I could to make myself get better but I knew that I still had an issue with my mindset.
I had a broken mindset and that needed to change. So I went from a broke mindset to a billionaire mindset and now I’m getting my power back. I will no longer let myself and my passions take a backseat.
My passions and I are in the VIP section of the club and the things that no longer serve me can’t even get in.
So for all the women out there put you first sis! You need to love yourself and do your thing! Be selfish and be in your villain era because you are going to be the villain in someone’s story regardless. Better make it good!
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